Your Father’s Daughter.
In my more selfish moments, I am glad I was born a boy. I don’t think men are better or stronger or smarter; but our lives are easier.
I live in a world that was built by people like me. Many women inhabit a world that they have to fight to get access to. I am judged on my abilities and credentials. Women all over the world don’t have that opportunity. I cross the street when I see my destination. Women are justified in crossing the street when they see men they don’t know.
I am not attempting to mansplain the experience of females. You already know all of the above. You either live it everyday or have had it explained to you by now. When I write, I write as I think, so I would just like you to see where I am coming from.
I have a daughter who is 10 and I have to build her up for that world. It’s horrible.
She’s strong, sassy, funny, creative and confident and my greatest fear is that she won’t be able to fulfil her potential if the world doesn’t keep up. She plays football in a mixed team, she used to play basketball for a girls team against teams of boys. She doesn’t want to be the best female. She wants to be the best.
My second fear is one that I know alot of parents share. I don’t want her early experiences of inequality to harden her or change her perception.
If she lives the rest of her life knowing that she is as amazing as I know she is, I’ll be delighted. I’m worried that the world we live in will create unnecessary insecurities and limiting thoughts.
Male dominated society has a habit of making female strength a concern or a woman’s intelligence a negative. It often celebrates women, in the context of the man they stand next to. It puts women who conform and play up to stereotypes on a pedestal.
Dads see their daughters as magic. They know about the glass ceilings and the way the world works but when we listen to our daughters talk and look into their eyes, we see unlimited potential. We see beauty and fire. We see leaders and world changers.
I may not be in a position to give advice to all girls or women but I’d like to share the message I hope sticks with my daughter forever:
Never forget, in the pressures of this world, that pure appreciation of who YOU are. Never change for society or limit your own future for the benefit of men. Look in the mirror and see one of many incredible people who share your struggles and your pain. Remember that men are not all bad, but they are fortunate, and not always aware of the fact. Learn to love yourself, how you look, how you think. Focus on your strengths because when you master them, noone else will come close.
All of the best people I know are women. All of them are different, all of them have found a way to be unapologetically themselves, even when the world pressures them not to be.
In my more selfish moments, I am glad I was born a boy, yes, but in more reflective moments I envy the power of women.
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Written By Brandon Burton