One of the greatest modern-day struggles our delicate society faces is self-esteem. How we feel about ourselves seems to be so crucial for success in almost all areas of life, that self-confidence becomes just another thing for you to acquire. Everywhere you look for advice on the subject, you’re told that you must “love yourself”, and that this self-love must stem from “unconditional self-acceptance”.
In my experience with battling suicidal depression, I cannot sit around trying to think myself into just accepting myself. My love for myself is almost completely CONDITIONAL. Me feeling my own love, depends on whether I am ACTIVELY GIVING myself the love and attention I need. If I am not asking myself, “Will, what do you need me to do for you today?” then listening and delivering via ACTION, I do not deserve my own love.
Maybe you hate yourself because you neglect and disrespect yourself!!!
Ask yourself what you need then be still and listen. This is not unlike prayer. But unlike how most people pray, where they talk and talk and ask for things and never STFU and wait patiently for a response from their Higher Self, you will sit with the question. Call it prayer or meditation or whatever word makes you feel like it’s a justifiable use of your time. Whether that little whisper says “give me exercise”, or “feed me healthy food”, or “get some sleep”, or “figure out your damn budget” or whatever, just DO it.
When YOU take full responsibility for fulfilling YOUR needs, it’s surprising how easy it will be to “love yourself”. In fact, you’ll be so busy taking care of business that it won’t even be an item on your to-do list anymore.
Stop trying to force self-love! Face the fact that yes, sorry, you do have to EARN it.
Treat yourself so well that you can’t help but fall head over heels for yourself!
Nobody deserves your full attention more than You.
Written By: WillPowerBurton